1. It is important to understand the nature of the "cheater." You have to determine if this act of infidelity was just a bad mistake and it won't happen again or is your spouse unfulfilled and will continue these acts. It comes down to the question of why did your spouse cheat. You may need the help of a professional counselor to determine this but it is important to know.
2. Accept the fact that this happened and it has caused you a great deal of negative emotions. The sooner you accept it the sooner you can deal with it. Not dealing with the pain and anger you are feeling can lead you down a self-destructive path that will not benefit you or anyone around you. Yes, you are the victim. But you and only you can pull yourself back together and make the decision to deal with the problem.
3. How to handle a cheating spouse will involve leaning on friends for support. Use them for strength and comfort.
4. Be prepared to elicit the help of a professional relationship or marriage counselor. These are trained professionals that work with troubled relationships everyday. They can help you learn to understand what has happened and establish a plan that can help you overcome the experience. Don't underestimate the help that they can give you.
5. You should have a strategy, perhaps even several strategies. How will you confront your spouse if you discover they are cheating? How will you take care of yourself once the situation is out in the open? Have you ever had to deal with a painful situation before and can you rely on your past experience to help you through this?
As painful and as hurtful as this situation can be you must learn how to handle a cheating spouse. Incorporate the suggestions above; find answers to the questions posed in the article. You can move forward after your partner has cheated. How you move forward is up to you.
About the Author
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Peter Harris is a health care professional and author and writes frequently about relationships.
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